Exploring sexuality
through the Enneagram
Buy the one-of-its-kind course based on 4 years of academic research, find out how to contribute to the next phase of the research, or locate a qualified sex therapist working with the enneagram.
This course consists of 20+ hours of pre-recorded video lectures.
20+ hours
350 USD
12 lessons
The price for this unique course includes full access to all lectures and gives access to a discussion forum to get answers to all question that may arise.
The course is divided into 12 thematic lessons.
Online 1 year
This course contains pre-recorded videos and is entirely online, so you can watch at your own pace for a one-year period.
Who should take this course?
Enneagram students
If you are already familiar with the psychology of the enneatypes and would like to see how this influences our approach to sexuality, then this course will answer all your questions.
Enneagram trainers
This course will provide you with unique content, based on 3 years of academic research, which will enable you to upgrade your own knowledge. It will also enable you to answer all questions your students may have about sexuality.
Therapists and coaches
If you are working at a deeper level with your clients to foster self-development, then you cannot avoid the topic of sexuality, as it is at the core or our essence and being. This course will teach you how to notice the challenges each type may face and how to improve sexual and marital satisfaction.
Main topics of this course
The development of human sexuality and sexual values
The motivations of sex
How we find a (sexual) partner
The impact of type, instinct, and level of development in sexual play
Sexual fantasies and communities
Attitudes towards monogamy and non-monogamy
Sexual satisfaction and dysfunction
Improving sexual satisfaction through enneagram work
      Lesson 1
      Lesson 1
      The development of human sexuality and sexual values
      Attitudes towards sex and sexuality have evolved throughout human history. This introduction to this historical overview uses spiral dynamics as a framework to explain these changes and provides the essential basis on which to build further. The impact of type and instinct need to be seen in their historical context, especially as this helps in understanding where they play a role and where they don't.
      Lesson 2
      Lesson 2
      The motivations of sex
      How to be a graphic designer and not to lose your soul. Alex will share his experience about the process of becoming a professional, career ups and downs, and searching for personal style and approach.
      Lesson 3
      Lesson 3
      Gendered energy & gender stereotypes, gender identity and sexual orientation
      The concepts of 'masculinity' and 'femininity' are central to many ancient systems of knowledge, but are demonised in our modern-day society that has difficulties with symbolic thinking. This module looks at how the enneagram types relate to this ancient wisdom, but also at the use of 'sexuality' as a marker for identity.
      Lesson 4
      Lesson 4
      Finding a sexual partner
      Most people find a partner through flirting or seduction, but the different enneatypes have a different approach to this. We examine how not only the fixation, but also the instincts and the levels of development have an impact on this process.
      Lesson 5
      Lesson 5
      The sexual instinct and the instincts in sex
      The three instincts give different dynamics to the sexual experience and their antagonistic tendencies give raise perceptions of sexual incompatibility. We examine the dynamics through an in-depth analysis of the zones described by Russ Hudson.
      Lesson 6
      Lesson 6
      Passions and sins in sex - the body types
      The cognitive distortion of the type logically influences our ideas and approach to sex. In this lesson, we look at the 3 body types.
      Lesson 7
      Lesson 7
      Passions and sins in sex - the heart types
      The cognitive distortion of the type logically influences our ideas and approach to sex. In this lesson, we look at the 3 heart types.
      Lesson 8
      Lesson 8
      Passions and sins in sex - the head types
      The cognitive distortion of the type logically influences our ideas and approach to sex. In this lesson, we look at the 3 head types.
      Lesson 9
      Lesson 9
      Fantasies and communication
      Both passions and virtues lay at the basis of most of our sexual fantasies, so we look at both dynamics. Communication on sex is arguably more important than the sexual experience itself, as it is at the source of the relational aspect of the sexual experience. All types have their own communication style which can both enhance or decrease sexual and marital satisfaction.
      Lesson 10
      Lesson 10
      Celibacy and non-monogamy
      Throughout human history, cheating has been the source of major suffering. However, views on consensual non-monogamy have been very different. In this module, we look at how the different types perceive non-monogamy and what their motivations for this may be.
      Lesson 11
      Lesson 11
      The ego-states and the sexual experience
      The ego-states or levels of development have a major impact on our sexual experience.
      Lesson 12
      Lesson 12
      Enhancing sexual satisfaction
      The aim of understanding human sexuality through the enneagram is to improve the quality of our sexual relationships. In this final module we look at how the lower levels of functioning can lead to sexual dysfunctions, but also what we can do to get more satisfaction from our sexuality.
      Academic foundations of this course
      300+ books and dissertations
      An enormous literature review of books on the enneagram and on human sexuality were used in the first phase of the research in order conceptualise potential causalities, and to set the framework for further focus groups and discussions
      200+ hours of focus groups and interviews
      In order to uncover type- and instinct-related influences on sexuality, focus groups were held with people from the different enneatypes as well as with partners of the different types. In-depth interviews with a number of people were used to finetune some of the conclusions.
      Discussions with peers and sex therapists on the preliminary conclusions brought further validation and finetuning.
      Third phase of the research of Dr Frederik Coene and Valerie Wanamaker
      Call for volunteers
      We are currently recruiting 162 volunteers (6 per subtype) for in-depth interviews for our second phase of the research. If you know your enneatype and dominant instinct well and feel open to talk about sexuality, send an email to Dr Frederik Coene (coenefr@gmail.com)
      Sex therapists working with the enneagram
      Valerie Wanamaker
      Licensed Clinical Social Worker Associate (LCSW) and Certified Sex Therapist (CST)
      Dace Mars
      Licensed sex & relationship therapist
      Sam E. Greenberg
      Enneagram Coach, specializing in sex & relationships, PhD candidate
      Lyndsey Fraser
      Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Certified Sex Therapist (CST)
      Recommended books

      Sex and the enneagram

      Ann Gadd

      The enneagram, relationships and intimacy

      David Daniels & Suzanne Dion

      Sex, love and your personality

      Mona Coates & Judith Searle